Mixed emotions on Mother’s Day

IN 1924 Sydney resident Janet Heyden initiated Mother’s Day in Australia to support lonely, elderly mothers who had lost their husbands and sons to World War One.

While intended as a day of charity, the second Sunday in May quickly became a day for recognising mothers everywhere, with Australians spending a record $1 billion annually on gifts to mark the occasion.

Jo Dempsey is a 47-year-old single mother of three who lives in Laurieton.

A survivor of breast cancer, she sees the day as a way to celebrate her good fortune.

“Raising my son and two daughters with kindness, manners, and morals, and seeing this in the real world is hands down amazing,” she told NOTA.

“And I couldn’t be a mum without my mum. She has taught me resilience and kindness; without her constant support I couldn’t be the mum I am today.”

For others Mother’s Day brings grief and a reminder of loss.

Penni Leek, 42, lives in Lakewood with her husband and her two teenage daughters.

“My relationship with my mum was always very difficult and dysfunctional,” Penni told NOTA.

“We have been completely estranged now for twelve years, so I make the day about my kids and focus on my own little family unit.

“I don’t look at it as my day as that forces me to focus on my lack of relationship with my mother.”

On 9 May two events are being held for those who find Mother’s Day challenging.

Bears of Hope will hold a high tea at Laurieton United Services Club for mothers that have lost a child, and Simplicity Funerals Laurieton is facilitating a non-denominational memorial service for those carrying a quiet weight that isn’t always seen or spoken about.

Celebrant Michelle Freeman told News Of The Area, “This memorial is about honouring love in all its forms, and gently supporting those who are grieving, including those mothers who carry loss in their hearts.”

Mother’s Day falls on 10 May.

By Rachael THORPE